I don’t feel shame because for me, there is nothing for me to be ashamed about. I have a baby, I have depression, I have anxiety but I’m not ashamed of them in fact I embrace them. They make up who I am. If I didn’t have depression, anxiety or a baby, I wouldn’t be the same, I would be a whole different person. I love the way I am and I wouldn’t change that for anything not even if you gave me a thousand dollar’s, I still wouldn’t change myself just so I could feel shame. That’s not me, that’s not what I want to be as a person. I love myself, I love who I am. If I didn’t have a baby, depression or anxiety, I wouldn’t be the same person I am now, the person I was yesterday, the person I will be tomorrow and the person I will be for the rest of my life and I’m fine with that because I know that I am not ashamed to be who I am.
When someone tried to make me feel shame, it didn’t work how she wanted it. She wanted to make me feel ashamed that I chose to have a baby at fifteen or she would just call me down. She wanted me to feel shame because that’s all she felt because of the way she was to a lot of people but it didn’t work on me so she just stopped paying attention to me but that didn’t stop her from making me feel bad but that is a different story that I cannot share.
This world has lots of things that make us feel shame. Some of us are ashamed because their parent’s make them feel that way or they have a body image that make’s them feel ashamed or a certain feature, the way they talk, dress, walk, look or act just know that you aren’t alone, most people go threw shame and can tell you how is feel’s and my guess is that it doesn’t feel good at all. Some body out there will understand maybe even one of your friend’s, parent’s , teacher’s or someone close to you. Almost everyone has felt shame so you don’t have to be alone.
Shame shouldn’t take over your life.