I have learned when and when not to feel shame. I feel ashamed when i know i’m in the wrong or when i’m getting a lecture. When im not feeling shame is when i know i’m not in the wrong and i have nothing to feel ashamed about. Some people make it seem as though you are supposed to feel ashamed for something you have not done which causes you to feel shame.
In the past i have been accused of stealing. They had tried to make me feel shame because they aren’t a truthful person. I knew i haven’t stolen anything so therefore i didn’t feel ashamed i just felt upset and I had thought my reputation has been ruined. I dealt with this by avoiding the place they had accused me of stealing and had not been back there anymore.
photo credit: Alexxa cole